Many queer people know that sometimes the safest way to come out is to first say, "I'm bi! I'll probably fall in love with the other sex, but for right now I am just opening myself up." Bisexuality to a lot of gay and lesbian people is the stepping stone to come into their own. I said it, almost all of my other queer friends said it. It wasn't till I felt truly comfortable with who I was that I was able to label myself as gay. As I have learned in the past few months, bisexuality takes a lot more identity and discovery time, and really for a lot of people isn't a stepping stone, its their life.
If you saw Glee from a couple weeks ago, the episode Blame It on the Alcohol, you saw Blaine dealing with a bisexual stage. After kissing Rachel in a drunken stupor, he decided he would go on a date with her to see. When Kurt, who actually has feelings for Blaine, found this out he shouted a few lines that really struck a beloved friend of mine who is bi. Kurt said:
Bisexual is a term that gay guys in high school use when they wanna hold hands with girls and feel normal.
It wasn't until Blaine kissed Rachel again that he knew he was 100% gay because of the lack of a firework, a spark of sorts. Very humorous storyline, cute, right? Well, I really don't think its the best way to encourage true bisexuals to feel completely comfortable with themselves. They already have a nasty stigma in society from people in their own queer community as "people who just can't make up their minds." Some gays and lesbians go as far as to oppress bisexuals and make them feel like they are less than welcome making them almost pick between being gay/lesbian or straight.
Why is this happening? Even in our own queer community, we cannot even agree to be open with all inside of it. Is there a true bisexual though, someone who is attacted, 50/50 to both male and females? Are all bisexuals just gays, lesbians, or straights who have a slight attraction to something else? Is bisexuality a freedom of sex type of thing? Is it true what Kurt said, is bisexual just that stepping stone term?